“There’s a king and a fool in every person, and the one you speak to is the one you will see emerge. So if I’m feeling like, “Oh, he’s such a fool, he’s so ignorant, and he doesn’t pray, and he’s not a spiritual leader, and he doesn’t care about Jesus like me,”…. which is all pride, what I just all said, right there. So now we’re looking at him as a fool. In our eyes, we see him as lesser than and then we go address it.
You’re in trouble. You’re absolutely in trouble. All you’re doing is actually feeding all their fears. Because they have fears, just like we do, all their insecurities, just like we have insecurities, we’re feeding all of that. So, what the Lord told me was, do not address him until you see him the way I see him and when you can see him from my eyes as a king, go address the king. How would you address the king?
With honor, total honor.” – Jenny Donnelly
Jenny learned to remind her husband of his anointing instead of feeding his insecurities and fears.
What is the underlying tone of how you speak to your husband? If you see him as a fool, everything you communicate will drip with this lying beneath the surface.
“Why didn’t you do this or stop that? Why won’t you help more? Do more? BE more? You aren’t doing this right, you aren’t meeting these needs of mine, you don’t look or act how I think you should. You aren’t being enough for the kids or the ministry. You are a lousy provider!”
Go on, girl! Get it! Speak those accusations. Speak to his fears and insecurities! Destroy him with your words. Speak to that fool you see your husband as! But don’t you dare be surprised when he never measures up to what you want and then one day decides to be done with YOUR foolishness.
Who’s the fool now?
Some of us need to get on our knees and repent to Jesus for the way we view our spouse deep in our hearts. If you want to save or turn around your marriage, it begins with YOU. Be desperate to see your husband as GOD sees him. Remove and uproot the bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness you may feel deep inside. Seeing your husband as a king is impossible when you despise him. But God doesn’t despise him. He loves him. He loves him so much he blessed him with a “help-mate”. YOU. How are you going about your God-given role? Is God pleased with you?
Maybe you aren’t doing so badly with this. Question: How much better can you be? I know for myself I can see miles of needed improvement. Jesus will make me someone who is PERFECT for my husband. I can and will be his BEST helper, the one who will speak life… the one who will speak to that king inside him, my king, when no one else will.
I am committed to seeing my husband as Jesus sees him. It is an entirely different approach than some of us are used to. It’s renewing our minds and seeing our man with a different perspective.
If you want a prophet, priest, and king in your home… SPEAK TO THAT MAN. He is THERE. Find love, honor, wisdom, and encouragement in everything you say. It is not manipulation, it’s FAITH. And it is required by us as help-mates.
Go girls… speak to your KING!
What if you have real issues you need to address? Watch for my next post! We will dive into this topic and surely upset some “kingdoms” that have been set up! 😜
