I’m realizing one of the most valuable character traits I can have is courage — mental, emotional, and spiritual bravery.
Everything the Lord asks of me requires it.
Everything.
Every conviction to overcome, every habit to die to, every area to grow in—it all demands one thing: strength of mind and courage of spirit.
REAL STRENGTH ISN’T SOFT
Let’s be honest.
Forgiving someone? That takes courage.
Not taking offense? Courage.
Keeping your mouth shut instead of defending yourself? Courage.
Not bringing up the past again just to win an argument? Courage.
Renewing your mind instead of marinating in your own toxic thoughts? Courage.
Staying kind when you’re PMSing and want to bite everyone’s head off? Courage.
Choosing peace and intimacy instead of control? Courage.
Loving when you feel unloved? Courage.
Extending grace when you’ve been wronged, and repenting when you’re the one at fault? Courage.
All of it demands that we be mentally strong and spiritually unshakeable.
There’s no shortcut, no excuse, no opt-out clause.
😩 “I CAN’T” IS A LIE
I want to be a big baby sometimes and feel sorry for myself.
“I just don’t want to.”
“I can’t.”
“It’s too hard.”
But that’s not an option for a follower of Jesus.
That’s not an option for me.
And let’s be clear—it’s not even true.
I can do it. I just don’t want to do hard things when it involves my thinking or emotions.
👑 A WOMAN OF MIGHTY VALOR
Then I read this verse and it wrecked me:
“Who could ever find a wife like this one — she is a woman of strength and mighty valor! She’s full of wealth and wisdom. The price paid for her was greater than many jewels.”
Proverbs 31:10 TPT
“Mighty valor” means great courage, bravery, and strength in the face of danger or difficulty.
Together, they describe someone who doesn’t just act bravely—she does it with exceptional strength, honor, and determination.
Determination to do what is right, even when it costs her everything.
To refuse weakness, whining, moodiness, or emotional tantrums.
We all have bad days. Who cares? That cannot be our excuse.
Strength comes from the Lord, not from our feelings.
When feelings run our lives, chaos follows.
WHERE DOES THIS STRENGTH COME FROM?
Stan Mast wrote it perfectly:
“The most distinguishing feature of this woman is mentioned last in the text—she fears the Lord. That’s the secret to her noble character… Rather than finding her center in her husband or family or career, she finds it in God… That faith gives her stability, fearlessness, and dignity that will see her through everything.”
— Stan Mast, Sermon Commentary
Full commentary here
That’s it.
Her strength isn’t from personality or temperment, it’s from proximity—to God.
SO, WHAT’S OUR EXCUSE?
Did you read my last post on the Orphaned Spirit? (If not …why not? 😅)
Then you already know this:
To live like a true daughter of God requires a change in how we think.
And let me just say it — change is not easy.
If you find it easy, message me, because I’ve never met that person.
But difficulty doesn’t make it optional.
It’s still required.
Still non-negotiable.
If we want to please the Lord, we have to stop whining, stop replaying “poor me,” and take courage.
Stop mid-thought.
Stop mid-attitude.
Stop mid-excuse.
And choose to think right, speak right, and do what’s right.
I know, I know… this post is rough.
But I promise — it’s rough for me first.
I’m not preaching at anyone; I’m preaching to myself.
Because honestly, I get frustrated dealing with the same issues over and over again.
I’m tired of catching myself in old patterns, old reactions, and selfish habits that should’ve died already.
I’m honestly sick of it.
But that frustration isn’t failure — it’s evidence that I’m still fighting to become who God has called me to be.
I want to be that woman of mighty valor — courageous, disciplined, emotionally steady, and spiritually sharp.
I want to be excellent at renewing my mind and crucifying my selfishness.
And I believe I can and will — not because I’m strong-willed, but because I know who I belong to.
That’s the key.
When I remember that I am not an orphan trying to earn approval, but a daughter who already has her Father’s love — everything shifts… and everything becomes doable.
The spirit of sonship — the healed daughter heart — silences the voice of striving.
It anchors me in belonging.
And from that place of security, I find my courage, my purpose, and my strength.
🔥 I hope this post puts some fire in your bones.
I just turned 44 — and I refuse to waste the precious time God’s given me on things I can overcome through His strength.
GO GIRLS. Let’s make the change. Let’s be women of mighty valor. 💥
