MARRIAGE GOD’S WAY PART 2: GOD’S PROTECTION

Hiiii!!  Did you miss me?😍

So last time we chatted about marriage, we discussed God’s order in marriage and what the Bible says about it. See Part 1 if you need a little reminder.  If you hated it, this one might push your buttons a little more.  And you know what?  I’m glad. 😇 

Remember how I said that GOD is the one who wrote the design and order of marriage?  See here:

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”  Ephesians 5:22-24 

Ask yourself these questions (Don’t be a brat and skip these – literally do it🤨.) 

1. Does God love me?  
2. Does God want the very best for me?  
3. Does God care about my life, my future, my destiny? 
4. Did he create ME with a purpose?  
5. Will He do everything in His power to ensure I have all I need to find and fulfill MY purpose as an individual? 

Why is He the bad guy again? Why don’t we trust Him with His design of marriage? Because … we are full of wounds, hurts, and betrayals, we have been beaten down, dragged around, and have major trust issues.   

If you don’t belong in this category, girl, you should be writing this blog…..honestly.  

So, can we agree that God’s plan is GOOD and the BEST? And the only reason we would argue with it is because the enemy is lying to us and trying to sabotage the Lord’s perfect plans? YET AGAIN? (Dude…I’m going to punch him right in the face.  Who’s with me??)

Moving on.  

Here’s the scoop.  If you do not take YOUR place and stop trying to take your husband’s job as the head of your home, if you refuse to recognize him as God’s ordained authority over YOU, his wife, and the children, you are literally putting YOURSELF and FAMILY in danger. 🥺 

Why, you ask?  Let’s break it down. 

There are these little things women, in specific, deal with regularly.  PMS, HORMONES, MOOD SWINGS, PERI-MENOPAUSE, MENOPAUSE…. Being FEMALE.  

Now the good Lord has blessed me thus far, and honestly, I’m a pretty steady gal… but I have had moments where I feel OUT OF CONTROL.  I start fights, argue, am irritable and irrational, and sometimes I don’t even freakin make sense to myself…but I am too stubborn to back down and often just don’t know how to stop yelling. Like… what am I even saying?? LOL, No one knows.  But I WILL BE HEARD.  

I have had these moments last for a few days.  But for some women, it lasts weeks, months, or even years.  

So what do we do? 

Your HUSBAND is the KEY to keeping your booty, large or small, grounded.  Think about it.  You – actin’ all CRAY CRAY, and he can think clearly.  He can be the voice of reason.  He can hear you and remind you of the TRUTH. God has set up a lifeline for us, a protector, a Knight in Shining Armor… My man can rescue me any day… 😍😏 Shashashashaaawwww! 

If we are NOT in the habit of allowing our husbands to speak into our lives, this isn’t going to go well.  

You and all your crazy will be left to fend for yourself.  Thinking and saying, and unfortunately BELIEVING all the crazy you are thinking and saying.  NOT GOOD.

He can be a voice of reason when your emotions are lies.  

This is not the time to see HIM as the enemy, poor guy. This is the time to cling to that man and allow him to help you.  

I have told Rich, “I am not good today. I feel irritable.  I feel extremely emotional. I need you to be patient with me and help me stay in line.” And he does.  He is so grateful I talk to him; I allow him to help. He is so thankful HE is not the target of the wrath of my hormones.  Whyyyyyy don’t we want to admit those times??

SO listen.  I have met several pastors who have suffered the loss of a marriage (uh yeah, you read that right) or have been through horrific seasons due to this exact thing.  The wife undergoes hormonal change, and the husband is the enemy.  The wife believes all the “crazy” going on in her head; she begins to equate her emotions to being the “holy spirit.”  She spirals down that rabbit hole, and few make it out intact.  

If your emotions are your religion, your “spiritual guide” … you’re screwed.  Emotions lie. 

“If your emotions are your religion, your “spiritual guide,” … you’re screwed.  Emotions lie.”

Matthew 7:21-23 is an example of how emotions lie.  These people genuinely FELT like they were saved, but didn’t OBEY the Word.  

“Not everyone who calls out to me, ‘Lord! Lord!’ will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of my Father in heaven will enter. 22 On judgment day many will say to me, ‘Lord! Lord! We prophesied in your name and cast out demons in your name and performed many miracles in your name.’ 23 But I will reply, ‘I never knew you. Get away from me, you who break God’s laws.’”

Do you know who doesn’t lie? The WORD OF GOD.  Build your foundation not on your feelings but on God’s word.

Matthew 7:24 “Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock.”

Practice challenging your feelings, dying to false ones, and renewing your mind to God’s Word, so when “it” hits the fan, you will have a foundation of ROCK and not sinking sand.  Practice allowing your hubs to have a voice into your life, to disciple you, and learn to trust him.  

(Side note: Please seek professional Christian Counseling for yourself or your marriage if you need to.  There are many tools we can learn to communicate and rebuild trust issues.  We are not expected to know everything!) 

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.” James 1:2-4 The Message   

LET’S GO!!!.. so awesome🙌. 

Unfortunately, we will all deal with female issues on varying levels, and we WILL be tested in this area of our lives.  Our TRUE COLORS, or whatever our foundation is made of… (our emotions or God’s Word), will be exposed and tried. 

I don’t want any of YOU to be the women who cannot team up with their husbands and get through those seasons. I don’t want to see you living on emotions and getting caught off guard when they fail you.  

Get your marriage in GOD’S order and emotions submitted to the Word so you can survive, thrive, and grow closer to your husband during these trying seasons.  

Get your marriage in GOD’S order, and emotions submitted to the Word so you can survive, thrive, and grow closer to your husband during these trying seasons.  

One last thought. Be aware of how you are behaving.  Be aware of your cycle and hormone levels, eat right, exercise, and see doctors that can help keep you in line as you age and approach the different seasons of life.  Talk and work with your husband. Don’t be embarrassed to get help or admit you’re “off.”  It’s okay, and you can get through it! 🙏💪 

I am passionate about this topic.  I am fighting for you, and I want you and your family TO WIN!!  

Let’s GO GIRLS.  God-Speed.    

Ps… I am fully aware not all of our husbands are interested in taking this spiritual role, and not all our husbands are saved.  A special blog just for you can be found in the series “Submission.”

OTHER RESCOURCES & LINKS: 

BLOG: Trigger Alert: Submission Part 1 

BLOG: Submit?  But do you know my husband? Part 3 

Warriors & Wildmen E127:How Woman Can Destroy their Marriage – Part 1 

Warriors & Wildmen E128:How Woman Can Destroy their Marriage – Part 2