Urban Dictionary: BOSS BABE
A woman who owns her own business. As a center of influence, she knows what she wants and goes for it. She’s in charge of her life and makes no apologies or excuses for who she is.
Authentic, ambitious, confident, talented, magnetic, focused, relentless, and full of grit.
Unfortunately, so much feminism is being crammed down our throats that it’s hard to tell the truth from a lie. These words carry so much weight and an expectancy that all young women need to be this way, or they are suppressed, abused, and trampled-on wretches.
The thought of depending on a MAN for anything is frowned upon. The idea of not having a career is unspeakable, and if you are not considering yourself a “boss-babe”, well, then you just don’t know who you are yet, you poor pathetic soul.
It’s difficult because I think it is important to have these qualities, I think it is important even to have a career or education. But we are NOT supposed to act and behave like men.
Elisabeth Elliot says in her book, ‘Let Me Be A Woman’, that “We are “complementary opposites,” and the distinctiveness between men and women must be honored, cherished, and protected.”
Men are protectors, providers, and leaders in the home. If the woman has taken these roles, what use do you have for a husband? If you do not allow a “man” to do these things for you because you are a “boss babe”, how on earth will you ever find a godly man that fulfills his God-given roles? YOU are in his spot.
Any role God has for you will be affected if you do not fulfill your role as a woman. It doesn’t even have to do with marriage. YOU are a WOMAN, created and designed perfectly by God.
Now I would consider myself very independent. I am strong, when I was single, I loved it, I don’t need much from others, and I take care of myself. But my attitude and spirit in the home are Christ-like. I am 100% submitted to my husband. My attitude makes way for HIM to protect me, provide for me, and care for me. It allows and invites him to fulfill his role in my life. I am not trying to fill those roles. I desire for HIM to fulfill those roles.
I enjoy being a woman. I enjoy the role God has given me. I am a helpmate. I am a nurturer. I enjoy yielding to my husband and allowing him to lead me and our home. He leads. I follow. It’s beautiful.
1 Corinthians 11:3 3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.”
This means the idea of “boss-babe” is totally unbiblical when it comes to a godly marriage, but it can also corrupt our role as women. In fact, anything that is in defiance of the way God has created us is rebellion. Our God-given role must be embraced, supported, and defended. Anything that implies “changing places” with men is in rebellion against God. Be very careful your heart does not agree with the world.
I embrace femininity, NOT feminism, and I find that God’s favor and blessing rest on me most when I am fulfilling the role God has given me as a woman.
I love this quote:
“–so the woman who accepts the limitations of womanhood finds in those very limitations her gifts…”
― Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman
One other thought…
I was recently speaking with a man who has been on the hunt for a godly wife for a very long time. The problem he is running into is that women no longer desire this role. They want to be the ones in charge, they want to be the boss, the leader, and they don’t want to submit to anyone. In their minds, they don’t need anyone “protecting and providing.” I promise you this includes the Lord.
Single ladies, protect your femininity. Protect the beauty of it, the grace and uniqueness of it, protect it from the lies of the enemy that you are “doing it all wrong” if you are doing it God’s way. Even if marriage is not something you desire, you are still a woman. Embrace it and learn what GOD says about it. It is precious in his sight, and you will be MOST fulfilled in your life, being whom you are called to be.
God bless you, single babes, and keep shining for Jesus!
Very nice blog Thank You!